The Girl you never knew!

So, Finally… After ten months of “To be mom” phase and after eight months of “motherhood” period, something aided me to write this. Why now and why not before?! …  A strong reason behind, that made me think deeper, just to explore how exactly life during and after pregnancy would be.

This isn’t penned to hurt anybody or pointed to any individual. I truly respect those husbands who travelled along with their wives during the journey towards bringing a new life to this world. And yes, for those who didn’t, I hope this might be one step help for them to understand how exactly the phase would be.

Recently, I happened to come across an article in a tamil magazine, (I don’t remember the name though) which explained, why daughters are so attached to their dad and why do girls stay so valuable to them.

I was keen and fervent to read it, as I wanted to know the reason behind. The one main reason was to imagine my girl (call her Akshara aka shravanee) and her dad right there.  The way every such article portrays, I keep imagining them both and tears of happiness would roll down automatically. The kind of feeling is illimitable and only a mom who loves her husband and her child will understand.

Ok… I started reading the article then. It was so lovely, explaining why daughters always stay close to their dad than their mom. But on further reading it, I was in a kind of little disappointment and to a surprise, I couldn’t digest the fact how someone could write such article this way.

All that it construed was, there exists three important women in every man’s life who come all through his life. One, his mom who has given her the best part of life, who forfeits everything and protecting him. Second, his sister who has guided him to the right destination and mentoring him stays near helping him out with his worst situations. Third, his daughter who will make his life hued and only happiness for him will be making her a princess.

Great! But what’s the role of wife?! For all those men who, unfortunately, missed to see their wife as important,

Dear Men,

Please understand that the phase which your wife crossed isn’t a cake walk. She had gone through lot of sleepless nights. Once she wakes up in the morning, she would have had the routine to clean her puke on your lavatory. From size of a pea to a watermelon, do you really think, it’s just way too easy to cross. And yeah! Have you ever imagined swallowing a huge watermelon and pushing it out of you?! Have you ever seen your better half complaining about the morning sickness, she had during her pregnancy?!  Keeping quiet doesn’t always mean she is perfectly alright, but she is even enjoying the pain more. And yes she knows how much the little girl will mean a lot to you.

She would have spent days with the little one, describing her how you look, how you took care of her ,how often you get angry, what sort life she will get when she enters the world, how you will always stay as her first child and how the little one is safe inside her.

She might have had craved for something, but your little one wouldn’t have liked it. You better know what would have happened then. I guess you could have seen your wife’s leg getting swollen up after she had crossed almost half the well. She always wanted to tell you, how she feels, a little scared and worried about her delivery. She wouldn’t want to tell you as you might be equally scared. She would have wanted you to stay near her, during her ideally called “The re-incarnation” period, but she has kept quiet, just because you might not withstand the pain. Approximately, after two hours of struggle, imagine the smile on her face, seeing you little one cry out loud. She would have definitely wanted you to hold her first. You have always been her priority.

The actual journey starts only after the little princess is born. Again, the routine starts. Spending sleepless nights with her. She now has dual responsibility. Love is doubled. A little one is added in the priority list.

Do you ever know how does it feel like when somebody ask her if she had stopped feeding her baby or someone constantly nurturing her to feed the little one? Though she wants to, she couldn’t have done .due to her postnatal illness. She would have wanted to wake you up in the middle of the night, just to help her out in taking care of your princess. But she might have not done it, because she knew, how it feel like to have lost sleep for more than days,

For every girl in her life, there exist four people who remain as the most important of all.

Her Dad, Brother, Husband and her Son. For her, after leaving the entire family behind, you are the new world. After all n number of children, regardless of the gender, you still remain as her first child.

For all the discomforts she had including the torments, all that she expects would be just a place in your heart. Undeniably, she will be overjoyed to know that she is also your priority.

 Often, we never want to give you up, because we know some day or the other, the rest will leave, and the journey with you will lasts forever till our last breath. !